Two of our ministry team's most important values are Loyalty and Honesty. The reason these two values are so important is because loyalty and honesty build trust. Disloyalty and dishonesty erode trust on a team. Patrick Lencioni, in his book, Five Dysfunctions of a Team, says that the"lack of trust" is a primary dysfunction of a team. If we can't trust one another, we can't be on the same team. Bottom line. At Mountain Lake, as a ministry team, we seek to practice loyalty and honesty. Even when it's hard. They're two of our team's core values. So I want to unpack these today and tomorrow.
In the dictionary, loyalty means fidelity, allegiance, and faithfulness to a person or system. I don't always ask my team to agree with me. In fact, they often disagree! I think that's great. Robust dialog and constructive conflict is good for a team and for members within a team or organization, including the church! However, as the leader, even in the midst of that robust dialogue, and even conflict, I do expect the members of my team to be to be loyal to me. I expect their support, and I expect them to speak positively about me, especially publicly before the other team members and the church. Just like any team, we may have our disagreements, tensions, and misunderstandings. But I want them to be publicly loyal to me. Faithful. Trustworthy. I want them to have my back.
"Venting" about another person to another person on the team is a violation of loyalty on our team. Running someone else under the bus is, too. If we are struggling with another person on the team (and we ALL will, from time to time), our Biblical responsibility was spelled out by Jesus: “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over" Matthew 18:15 (NIV). In other words, conflict should be handled privately between two parties as much as possible. If I have deal with a team member or they with me, Our job is to go TO THAT PERSON and work it out. Privately.
Here's the cool part, though: Public loyalty brings private leverage. If I know a team member has my back publicly (within the organization and within our team), it builds trust between myself and that person. If I know I can TRUST a team team member to come to me when they have an issue with me, and if they can trust me to support them publicly and handle any issue between me and them privately, it builds the relationship and builds the team.
After I've been publicly loyal, and go to that person privately, I then owe it to the person on my team to be completely honest with them. I'll talk more about honesty and the way we work at it on our team, tomorrow.
Are you loyal to your team? Can you be trusted? Is your team loyal to you? Loyalty builds trust on a team. It's a BIG DEAL.This is the way we roll at Mountain Lake.This is why we have a GREAT TEAM!