What does it mean to be secure in our own skin? It means we are comfortable with who we are. It means we are comfortable with the talents and skills we have and the ones we don’t. It means we are freed up to run the race marked uniquely for us. How do we know if we are secure in our own skin?
If we are not secure in our own skin, we will tend to compare ourselves to others.
Does it bother you when others prosper? Does it bother you when other people seem to be blessed more than you? Does it bother you when things seem to come easier for others? Does it bother you that someone has something you don’t have? All of these are signs of our own insecurity with who we are and what we have. Here’s the truth: We are not responsible for what we can’t do and don’t have. We are 100% responsible for what we can do and do have. When we spend as much or more time looking at what everyone else is doing, as we do on our own growth and health, it could be a sign of insecurity. If we’re not secure in our own skin we will measure ourselves by the success of others, rather than running the race marked for us. We need to come to the place in our lives that we can celebrate the blessings poured out on others’ lives. We need to learn to celebrate the successes of others.
If we are not secure in our own skin, we will tend to criticize others.
Misery loves company. Hurt people hurt people. Insecure people like to bring others down. If we’re hyper-critical about other people, ministries, or another company, we should first examine ourselves? Why are we so critical? Maybe it’s because we are an insecure person or leader. It’s easy when someone is experiencing more success or accolades than we are, to criticize them in an effort to bring them down a notch or two, maybe even all the way down to our level! Too many leaders condemn other leaders simply because we’re insecure in our own skin. Jealousy breeds condemnation. A secure person believes the best about people. A secure person celebrates the success of others! A secure person seeks to think AND speak only what is positive about others.
The Freedom of Security
Why is becoming secure in our own skin important? Well. when I get secure in my own skin, I am happy with who I am, what I am, what I do, and how I do it. I don’t obsess about what everyone thinks or says. I am freed up from the opinions of others. I don’t worry about what everyone else is doing as much as I do becoming the person I am meant to be. My biggest competition is me. I am running the race marked for me! In other words, I am content. An amazing sense of freedom comes in becoming secure in our own skin.
If we are secure in our own skin, we will tend to be content.
Are you content with you are and who you are becoming? Are you focused on running the race marked uniquely for you? What steps could you take to become healthier in this area? What steps can you take to compare and criticize less? Today make a commitment to become more secure in your own skin!
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