Balance. It sounds great, doesn’t it? Balance means giving equal energy, focus, and attention to everything and everyone in our lives on a daily basis. I don’t believe in it! Here’s why:
Five Reasons I Don’t Believe In Balance
1. Balance is not Possible.
Family and work can’t be balanced. The good news is that it’s not supposed to be. I’ve never met a person who was completely balanced. The truth is that we simply can’t be equally effective at a bunch of things at the same time. As we focus on one spinning plate, other ones will always tend to become wobbly. That’s just a fact.
2. Balance is not Biblical.
Not one time in Scripture, are you and I encouraged to live a life of “balance”. Not one time are you and commanded to limit our work to forty hours a week and be home at 5 PM.
Think about this: we invented the forty hour work week. How long did people in the Bible work? Sunup to sundown six days a week. Do the math. That’s 72 hours a week!
On the flip side, every seventh day, they stopped working. Why? God COMMANDED us to stop and cease our work one day each week, and rest (in the same list of commands He COMMANDED us not to murder). The very word Sabbath means: “to stop or cease ” something. God wants us to work 6 days. However, every seventh day should be an opportunity to STOP our normal routine and replenish ourselves physically and spiritually! This means that you are NOT supposed to “keep all the plates spinning”! God says to stop spinning them and let them all fall once every week! I love that!
3. Jesus wasn’t balanced.
However, does it surprise you to hear that Jesus didn’t balance family and work? Based on the Gospels, He worked 12-14 hour days, and never took a full weekend off, as far as we know. Yet he still experienced a good family life and invested in his friendships. He still made time to hang out with Lazarus, Mary, and Martha.
Jesus saw His priorities to family and work as equal “rhythms” that demanded ALL of His attention at a given point, rather than two competing loyalties that must be balanced at a given point.
Intensity followed by rest. Relentlessness followed by Relational Investment. That’s rhythm.
Rhythm (rather than balance) seems to be more of the prescribed pattern for our lives in the Bible. Intensity followed by rest. Relentlessness followed by relationship investment.
Check out PART TWO of this post.