Decisions. They define us. Our life is largely determined by the decisions we make. How do we become a person that makes good decisions on a normal basis?
The answer is actually pretty simple:
1. Seek out relationships with people who make good decisions.
If you want to become a wiser person, seek our relationships and/or mentoring relationships with people you look up to that seem to have made great decisions in their life consistently. Someone who has become successful in the area you want to be successful in; someone who;s kids turned out right; or someone who had a great marriage! Take them to a cup of coffee and ask them: Could I hang out with you from time to time just to learn from you? Scripture tells us that we become more like the people we hang out with!
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." Prov. 13:20
2. Ask for advice from the right people.
I almost NEVER make a decision without talking it through with at least two people. This is perhaps THE reason our church has not had a train wreck! However, advice is like bacteria. You can find it anywhere. Bacteria can also be medicine or breed sickness! We need to be careful to take the right kind! To become a better decision maker, we've got to take advice from the right people! People who: love God; who have a track record in area of expertise we need; people we can trust; people who will tell us the truth even if we don't like it. Often times, I will seek 4-5 different opinions on a particular decision before I pull the trigger. I can not tell you how many times this has saved my butt. Literally. It's scriptural, by the way:
"For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisers make victory sure." Prov. 11:14
Coaching, mentoring, counseling, friendships, small groups, bosses, teachers, and pastors are all resources to help us make better decisions. God has given us the gift of people to build wisdom into our lives, We just have to DECIDE to take advantage of it.