Decisions define us.
I’ve heard it said that, “The decisions we make today determine the stories we tell tomorrow.”
Our life is largely guided by the decisions we make. The small decisions we make every day have a bigger impact on our success than a few big ones. We are all one or two bad decisions away from destroying our life and one or two good decisions away from turning our life around.
So, how do we become a person that makes good decisions on a normal basis?
Seek out relationships with people who make good decisions.
To become a wiser person, seek out relationships with people who seem to have made great decisions in their life consistently. Someone who has become successful in the area you want to be successful in; someone who’s kids turned out right; or someone who had a great marriage! Take them to coffee every few months and ask: “Can you tell me about the hardest decision you had to make in a certain part of your life? How did you know what to do?”
Become your own personal advisor.
Ask yourself, "What would I tell myself in this situation?" In the moments when you are too close to a decision, remove your own emotions from the situation. Asking these questions of yourself serve a good tools to separate yourself from the emotion of the moment: "What would a great leader do?" and "What would my successor do?" Talk about clarifying!
Ask for advice from the right people.
I almost NEVER make a decision without talking it through with at least two people. This is perhaps THE reason my life and business has not had a train wreck! However, advice is like bacteria. You can find it anywhere. Bacteria can be medicine or breed sickness! We need to be careful to take the right kind! To become a better decision maker, take advice from the right people! People who: love God; who have a track record in an area of expertise we need; people we can trust; people who will tell us the truth even if we don't like it. Often times, I will seek 4-5 different opinions on a particular decision before I pull the trigger. I can not tell you how many times this has saved my tail.
Coaching, mentoring, counseling, friendships, small groups, bosses, teachers, and pastors are all resources to help us make better decisions. God has given us the gift of people to build wisdom into our lives, We just have to DECIDE to take advantage of it.